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   lilyofthevalley

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   08/20/09

   Hello. I left a reply to your bpd post. I am currently going thru divorce. I have 2 teenagers. I was fortunate to have stayed home to take care of them. They are 15 and 14. Once they were in school full time thats when I began to notice things about dh. Never wanted to go anywhere, help with the kids, attend school functions or son's sporting games. Always said he didn't feel good. So I went to everything. It took its toll on me one day. Wanted more from him and he just wasn't giving. DH was diagnosed in 07 comorbid(having many mental illnesses) MDD,GAD,SAD and un diagnosed BPD. Covered it up from everyone by drinking. I helped him get to a pdoc. Tried several meds, did not want to go to therapy. Snowballed withdrawal from me and kids, spending hours on computer talking to women, then led to affairs. That was the last straw for me! I have a therapist and i go to a support group for me. I am finding peace and clarity. I hope you can too. Take care.
   
   
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   08/20/09

   Reply from simplegirl:

   Hello and thank you for sharing your story. So many women have contacted me, all with terrible stories about husbands who started out wonderful and ended up having affairs and mistreating them. I have been debating staying in the relationship because I invested 2 years and love and believe in this man, but the truth is that he is not seeing a therapist and even if he did it seems like the prospects of him improving are grim. I guess I should count my blessings that this happened before a marriage or further emotional attachment, but it's very hard to get over him.
   
   Thank you for your encouragement - I wish you the best as well!
   

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